Maintaining a harmonious relationship requires effective communication and conflict resolution skills. Every couple will argue, and it is alright to do so since it creates safety, but how this is done will either be healthy or unhealthy. Here are seven expert-backed strategies to help couples argue less and love more:
1. Embrace Effective Communication
The first and foremost prerequisite is that there should be no confusion or hidden agenda. Trust and appreciation are a product of active listening, where the two parties have to hear and see each other.
2. Identify Cycle of Conflict
Most people know that couples are always quarreling, and their fights often come in cycles. This is because it is easier to deal with the root of these patterns and lead to more productive conversations.
3. Be Sure to Use Constructive Breaks in Conflicts
Bargaining also involves a break during aggressive communication, where the two partners are allowed to calm down and gain better perspective in case they resume the conversation.
4. Establish Healthy Conflict Resolution Rules
Effective classroom management rules include no yelling at each other, being able to take a break when feeling upset, and being able to come back to a discussion after a certain amount of time, for example, in fifteen minutes.
5. Adopt a Team Mindset
If conflicts are managed with the perception that both parties are on the same side, then the conflicts will be solved without much tension.
6. Utilize 'I' Statements
When talking about emotions, it is always better to use “I” statements such as “I get hurt when….” as opposed to using aggressive language that can cause more harm than good.
7. Get Help from a Professional If Necessary
If issues arise, seeking advice from a couples counselor will help the couple gain strategies to enhance the communication and relationship.
These strategies can bring about improved relationship healthy interactions, less conflict, and increased loving behavior.
What methods have you used in order to avoid conflict and increase love between you and your partner? Please feel free to comment on your ideas and interactions on this topic in the comments section below.
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